Crisp the tofu
Tear 1 lb extra-firm tofu into ¾-inch (2 cm) cubes. Don’t overthink the shapes; rustic works.
Heat 1 tbsp grapeseed oil in a large nonstick skillet over medium heat.
Scatter tofu in the pan and toss to coat; sprinkle ¼ tsp fine sea salt.
Cook until golden brown on all sides, flipping occasionally — about 10–12 minutes. If tofu browns too fast, lower the heat. You want a firm interior and crisp exterior.
Make the tofu sauce
Whisk ¼ cup coconut milk, 2 tsp Thai red curry paste, 2 tsp curry powder, 1 tsp brown sugar, ½ tsp garlic powder, and ¼ tsp fine sea salt in a small bowl.
Reduce the skillet heat to medium-low and pour the sauce over the browned tofu.
Toss to coat and cook until the sauce reduces and clings to the tofu — about 5 minutes.
Drizzle the remaining 1 tbsp grapeseed oil, toss, and cook another 5–10 minutes until the tofu crisps again. This double-crisp technique gives great texture.
Make the peanut sauce
Combine ½ cup coconut milk, 6 tbsp smooth peanut butter, 2 tbsp brown sugar, 1 tbsp Thai red curry paste, 2 tsp tamari, and ¼ cup water in a small saucepan.
Warm over low heat and whisk until smooth. Add more water if the sauce feels too thick. Keep the sauce warm and pourable.
Serve
Slide tofu onto small bamboo skewers if you want a cute presentation. Scoop tofu into lettuce leaves and top with warm peanut sauce, pickled shallots, cucumber, cilantro, and chopped peanuts. Eat immediately.